No offense, but your high school teacher was a blooming idiot. I'm sure Maia can tell you what the failure rates for condoms are, but they are pretty low. And the line he used is the one for people who use the rhythm method--which is one step up from crossing your fingers and praying. Discouraging high schoolers from using condoms is pretty fucking irresponsible, unless he was personally seeing to it that every single girl in that school was given access to inexpensive no-questions-asked birth control pills or devices. I remember being a teenager--they act on impulse--and there is no more reliable spur-of-the-moment form of contraception out there. And if he was using this as a scare tactic to try to get his students to abstain completely, then he was living in a fool's paradise.

I read on my birth control pamphlet that condoms are roughly 86% effective in normal, every day use.

Like you, I am careful about who my partners are. So in all reality, pregnancy is my number one concern. I use condoms, yes, but I'm also on a birth control that has less than 1% deficiency rate. Better safe than sorry.

I wouldn't worry too much about catching any diseases. The ones that are most common and should be worried about can be caught with or without condoms. Being celibate for a long time, you obviously chose a partner that you trust. So take a deep breath and wait until you get those test results before you panic.

I am curious, though... given that this was a Catholic all-boys school in 1973 (not really a simpler world, just a simpler view of things), what was his alternative? And I am not saying breakage never happens, but it is certainly not a high enough rate (and wasn't even then) to justify his statement.

pregnancy isn't an issue. impossible anyway. i should be fine....he recently came out of a marriage and my guess is he hasn't had time to sleep around yet anyway ;)
it is just the point, and my rotten luck.
of course, it was the third time... the first two condoms were just fine ;)

he is a pretty nice guy ;)
i will take the booze and girl talk sometime anyway :)
thank you for the hug :)

when i sat queen of safe sex, i mean it ;)
i hand out and use trojans. i have no doubts about his history, otherwise we would not have gotten that far, condom or not. i am very particular and no sex is worth my life. actually, no sex is worth even a little itching. i care deeply for my sexual health!
i work with HIV and AIDS a lot. i have for about 15 years. that is enough to be safe.
the studies about oral have been out for a long time. they are not new. there are a few documented transmissions this way.
HIV is not the big worry for me. and i do feel like i am probably safe. it just pisses me off that i finally have sex and the damn thing breaks!

true....lots of experienced and educated people lack common sense. for the longest i worried more about those things you can catch with a condom. maybe to an unhealthy point. but, bluntly, it doesn't go inside me until it goes inside my mouth :) i like to see, up close and personal, what i am getting.
besides i love oral sex...giving it (i am not much for being on the other end of it), but because of that risk, swallowing is very intimate for me and isn't something i do on a casual basis.
i can admit, secretly, that i love the control of oral sex ;) i don't care how much power a man thinks he has over a woman, she never has more than when she has his cock in her mouth!

saran wrap and condoms? my, you are doubly protected. i hand my crown to you ;)
power in blowjobs doesn't have to be an awesome talent. think about it, a woman has your cock in her mouth.....she can bring you to ecstasy or she can bite it off. that is power.
i've never heard of or thought it a demeaning act at all.
and i've been challenged lots of times that someone can change my mind about how i feel about being on the other end. i didn't mean to imply i don't enjoy it sometimes, but that it doesn't do a lot for me. i can orgasm generally only if it is a bit rough, but it sure isn't an earthshaking orgasm that i can get other ways. i would just rather give....

i like everything rough.....
and, no, you don't know what is going on in her head. but i am sure it is nothing like:
ahh....that is the spot. he likes it here. if i do this, this way, i can make him squirm....and this makes quite a moan...just like this and i can make him cum....or i can change the motion just as he gets to the edge....and if i do this with my tongue while i move my lips like this, his toes will curl and he will moan at the same time......
biting and tugging on my lips...yes, a little. biting and tugging on my clit? oh, yes. my inner labias are pierced and i think doing so gave me the sensation of having two more clits. who would have thought inner labias could be so sensitive? i also have a triangle piercing (a very painful piercing that goes through the very top of the labias and behind the bundle of nerves in the clit). tug on that and get quite a reaction. i think what i like least about oral sex is slobbery oral sex. i want to feel tongue and teeth, not all the wetness. and noises....color me strange, but slobbery and sucking noises turn me off. even when i am giving oral sex....i think i've made an art out of just trying not to make noises... except, of course, moans. when he is getting into a blow job, i will cum over and over. this is interesting for me as a submissive because i don't think it is purely because i am pleasing him. i honestly think i am getting off on the control too.