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i think i am a mean boss. i am quite intolerant of tardiness and not coming in without advance notice. my morning teacher just called.
"My car won't start."
i wanted to say "What do you want me to do about it?" guess i am cranky today.
instead i said "How do you plan to get to work?" we have summer campers who show up at 8:30. it is now 8:10.
she said "Call someone to give me a ride or come look at it."
me, thinking there is not time at all for that. i remember there is a camper who lives close to her. a camper who walks to camp.
"Can't you walk? Or at least catch the bus?"
long silence and then she tells me she will get there as soon as she can.
on the other hand i am very flexible with time off, as long as i have been given enough notice to cover the off time. another of my staff members is way over her vacation days, comes in late often and leaves early. of course, she is the one i want to fire once i have all my eeoc ducks in a row.
i guess my gripe this morning is: why do people think a car not starting is a valid reason for being late? i mean i can accept a few minutes late if you don't have a group of summer campers and their parents who will be waiting outside the gate for you.
the problem is too, i think, that i have a staff that works because they have to, not because they are passionate about what they do. i need to change this.
meanwhile, she just called and made it in on time.
and, on the other hand, am i too passionate? my boss had a talk with me yesterday, for the second time, about working too much. these conversations always start with "You have to stop." i always look at him like i have no clue what he is talking about. "Stop what?" i innocently ask. the last time we had this conversation i told him i would slow down a bit. that was a few months ago when i was officially only working part time, but about 60 hours a week. now i am working full time officially, but about 70 hours a week. and it isn't about overtime. i don't get overtime because i am a supervisor. this time he added that he wanted the center open no more than 40 hours a week except for special events. he knows i will go insane if i only work 40 hours a week. i agreed to change the hours from noon to 9, but that i would use the mornings for meetings and grant writing. he rolled his eyes, but i think he knew it was the best he would get. he has seen me at board and other meetings in the community. he told me i have a "save the world" mentality. he said if someone, in a meeting, asks for volunteers to help shovel dog shit on canal street my hand is the first to go up. and that if there is anything i can do to help others i jump on it. he is right. but i feel lucky my boss cares about me working too much. and i need to learn that i can't expect my staff to work the way i do.
but if i could get a good pool of passionate volunteers.......



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Jul. 29th, 2003 01:53 pm (UTC)
Shouldn't volunteers BE passionate? Otherwise, why would they volunteer in the first place?

As for someone's car not starting, it does happen and sometimes it takes time to secure another ride. At least she called you ahead of time to let you know what was going on.

I can't stand bosses or dominants who think they can chastise or punish because something beyond the subordinate's control happens and they can't be on time because of unforseen happenings. Think about the fact that this person was probably nervous about the car not starting. This could signal costly car repair bills, which adds more stress and then he boss/dom being upset will just add even MORE stress. If they make an effort to let you know what's going on (which she did) and try their best to secure a ride, then I don't see the problem. Things happen that our beyond our control and people in positions of power need to understand this.

Of course if you don't believe / trust her, then that's a different story.
Jul. 29th, 2003 02:34 pm (UTC)
first this has nothing to do with dom/sub stuff....but employee responsibility. if you absolutely have to be somewhere at a certain time because a big group of children and their parents depend upon you, you should certainly leave early enough to handle unforseen issues. not being there will make all the parents late for work too and could risk their jobs.
i do understand that things happen which are beyond a person's control. and generally i am quite tolerant (otherwise none of my staff would still be here). however, in a situation where so many people depend upon this particular person's promptness, i will not be tolerant. this was explained to her before she took the position as well. my staff can work flex time, can come in late, can leave early, can take extra lunch time...but ONLY if they give advance notice.

>Shouldn't volunteers BE passionate? Otherwise, why >would they volunteer in the first place?

easy enough...community service? school/university requires volunteer time? some people volunteer to feel special about themselves rather than to actually help others. there are a lot of reasons to volunteer and, believe it or not, a lot of them are not about passion.
Jul. 29th, 2003 02:59 pm (UTC)
get your ass to work
I have had jobs since I was 11 ~ well younger, really.
My stress is my problem.
My responsibilities are mine to meet.

This one asked you to solve a situation that was hers to solve. To have done so would have made her weaker and perpetuated a pattern of whiney, I am not capable mindsetedness that would have done her a disservice and ultimately hurt your kids through trickle down stress.

Good job!

I have been a boss too many damn times. The softie enabler we all have inside runs into cost overruns which can strip services or collapse a business plan; get us to shoulder enough stress to collapse our team or ourselves and have to give up, and does no one a favor ~ not themselves, not the client, and least of all the "subordinate" ( what an upside down concept that is) they are being firm yet understanding with.

What would you do? If you know you would solve it ~ then perhaps offer a suggestion, as you did, but do not create new weakness on top of old by being too accomodating.

Jul. 30th, 2003 11:30 am (UTC)
Re: get your ass to work
I agree that she should not have asked maia to solve her problems. That is the worker's responsibility.
Jul. 30th, 2003 11:28 am (UTC)
Perhaps that's why I don't really volunteer unless it's because of something I personally feel passionate about, which is why my only volunteer work involves BDSM groups or live action roleplaying. And yes these are STILL important things to volunteer for because I will still have a part in someone's happiness.

If I were to volunteer for anything else, then I wouldn't do the best job I could beause I have no passion for it.

It's like at my actual job. I was hired originally to sell computer systems, software, etc. I like that. I have problems when having to do other things (like running register, pulling books off the dock, shelving textbooks) because I have no passion for those things. When I get to do MY job (sell computer supplies, work on the website, do tradebooks), I can get more passionate about it and I do a better job.
Jul. 30th, 2003 02:20 am (UTC)
Hmmm...work, passion and volunteer asses
In my humble opinion and as an employee of a non-profit organization myself, I think very little would be accomplished with the particular populations we work with if someone didn't hold both employees and participants up to as high a standard as possible. On the other hand, I have very little personal experience with arriving anywhere on time...work included.
Your passion and dedication for your job is admirable and rare. Most of us can only hope to someday find ourselves in a similar place---try not to let yourself burn out; the world needs more people like you.
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